Domestic Violence: Why Do Victims Stay?

  • Topic Info:The one question you may ask of a victim of domestic abuse is, "Why do you stay?"

    But the answer is much more complicated than you might think.

    In fact, there are many reasons why a woman (or man) might stay in an abusive relationship. She may have no place to go, no money saved up, no job. She may fear for the safety of her children and other loved ones, especially if the abuser has made threats of that nature. In essence, she may fear that the situation that will result from leaving will be much worse than the one she is currently in.

    When a victim leaves, and the batterer loses that power and control, that is when things get really dangerous. It is times like this that you hear the horror stories of shootings in public places, or graphic details of harm or even murder.

    Fortunately, there are many more resources nowadays to help women get through this process. Women's shelters and other groups are equipped to deal with all the questions, needs and help a victim may need when he or she decides it is time to go.

    Emergency Rooms can also be a place or respite, as almost all physicians are now trained to recognize the symptoms and signs of abuse.

    Join special guest, Dr. Diana Fite, MD, as she discusses the many reasons women stay in these harmful situations, and what you can do if you or someone you love is suffering.


  • Host: Dr. Leigh Vinocur, MD