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Women: 5 Ways to Have the Best Orgasm

Women: 5 Ways to Have the Best Orgasm
Remember the movie When Harry Met Sally, when Meg Ryan moans and pounds on the table to demonstrate her "oscar-winning performance" of a mind-blowing orgasm? Meg Ryan showcased how women can fake climaxing, really, really well.

But, what about the real deal? 

Climaxing isn't that easy if you are a woman. Interestingly, only a generation ago many doctors believed that a high proportion of the female population simply couldn't climax at all (net doctor).

The fact is, unlike men, most females have to learn how to reach orgasm. An important element is that sex needs to be on your brain; sexual activity and erotic thoughts should be a priority. 

What are the factors that could contribute to a woman having a hard time climaxing or not at all?

It's estimated that 70 to 80 percent of women require direct contact with the clitoris in order to climax. For women who are having difficulty achieving that sensation, you should focus on clitoral stimulation (with yourself and your partner). 

Once you have figured out how to orgasm on your own, you may have to show your partner what makes you tick. This is why self-exploration is super important, so you can teach your significant other what works. 

During this learning process, don't get frustrated. A lot of women start to feel insecure that it's taking them too long to climax, but you are not on the clock! Foreplay can actually be one of the best tools for couples to use to help "build up" the suspense. 

Now, lets get technical: although it depends on a female's specific anatomy, generally speaking women have an easier time climaxing when on top, because that provides for the most direct clitoral stimulation.  

Aylssa Dweck, MD, MS, is a full-time practicing OB/GYN at the Mount Kisco Medical Group in Westchester County, New York. Dr. Dweck discusses positioning, multiple orgasms and many tips for you to have the real "Meg Ryan orgasm." 

What You Can Do to Help Yourself Orgasm:
  • Masturbating helps you learn exactly which pressures and rhythms you need in order to orgasm.
  • Focus on clitoral stimulation.
  • Communication: once you have learned how to climax, you can teach your partner.
  • Take your time – and don't get frustrated.
  • Foreplay is important.
Featured Speaker:
Alyssa Dweck, MD, MS
alyssa dweckAlyssa Dweck, MS, MD, FACOG, is a full-time practicing OB/GYN at the Mount Kisco Medical Group in Westchester County, New York. She provides care to women of all ages and has delivered thousands of babies. A graduate of Barnard College, she has a Masters Degree in Human Nutrition from Columbia University and her Medical Degree from Hahnemann University School of Medicine in Philadelphia, now named Drexel University. Dr. Dweck trained at Lankenau Hospital in Wynnewood, Pennsylvania, where she was Chief Resident in 1994.

Dr. Dweck practices in Mount Kisco, NY, and Carmel, NY, and admits to Northern Westchester Hospital in Mount Kisco, NY.