In every relationship there are some really good days and some really bad days. Even if all is fair in love and war, how do you know when to keep fighting through or to walk away?
You might see plenty of warning signs and red flags throughout a relationship, yet you stay with your significant other anyway. You hate to quit, because quitting is for losers... right?
There can also be numerous reasons why you stay, although your justifications don't make sense to the people outside of the relationship and sometimes even yourself.
Many couples experience a cognitive distortion in relationships that often involves the push-pull behavior: a chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without appropriate cause or reason.
Oftentimes you mistake love for power, causing your relationship to become a power struggle. But who is really in control?
Do you feel like you have the influential power to change someone? If the relationship is abusive, do you feel that you need to forcibly fix the situation to regain control?
April Beyer, a professional dating coach for over 15 years, talks about why you might stay, and how to break free from an unhealthy, vicious cycle.